Hey friends! Welcome to another Coffee Date! I had an awesome weekend and would love to share some of what I learned.
My youth group had a retreat and it was MUCH needed. It was so nice just to get away from things and reevaluate and refocus. We had a great speaker and the very first night, she talked about comparison. Now, as you all know, comparison hits the hearts of each and every person. We all find ourselves suffering from this epidemic.
We see that effortless beautiful girl….we compare. We see that same girl get a 100% on her test…we compare. She then walks over to her multitude of friends (also beautiful I may add)…and we compare. We are then left thinking, “how can I be her?” “What can I change in order to have the life she has.” An ever so comfortable, day-in-the-life of me.
After our self-confidence has fallen… we look over at the person next to us. “At least I got a better grade than he did,” we think. And it happens again… we compare. When will we ever learn? When will we stop letting other people define our emotions and ourselves?
For the first time, I head some advice that I think will help me in this situation. “We aren’t supposed to compare ourselves to others… we’re supposed to compare ourselves to Christ.” Wow. When we start comparing ourselves to the success of this world, the athletic, the intelligent, the rich, and honestly the world, we stop aiming to be like Christ.
Instead of scrolling through social media wishing our lives were diffrent…we should crack open our Bibles and learn more about Jesus’ life. Instead of deciding were “better” than someone else, we should be holding ourselves to Jesus’ standard.
For the past two days, I have been jotting down all the times I find myself comparing my life to someone else’s. It’s been crazy to see the daily slips and how easily I compare. I challenge you to do the same.
Here are my recurring ones:
- I compared myself to someone at school because they are so beautiful and I don’t feel beautiful.
- I compared myself to the success of people around me and now I don’t feel smart.
- I compared my life to someone’s on social media and now I wish my life was different.
Horrible, horrible thoughts. I see how toxic this is and am on a mission to stop these lies.
Again, I encourage you to keep track of when you compare yourself to others… here are some guidelines.
- Grab a journal and carry it around with you, or make a “notes” in your phone to keep track.
- Don’t just tally up the times you compare… write down who you compared yourself to, when you compared, and why/how that made you feel.
- At the end of the day, read over your list and ask the Lord to help you feel confident in yourself and to give you the strength to not compare to them anymore.
I’m praying for you all and am a fellow fighter in the battle against comparison.
XOXO, The Christian Prepster